Caresses for him

The best caress, able to lead a male to pleasure instantly is the one focused on his genitals.

How to release the male Eros

The male's pleasure breaks loose suddenly, without much prelude, with a strong intensity. There is only one limit: knowing when to stop in order not to bring him on the brink of the orgasm. If you reach the point of no return and decide to stop the caresses and arousing, the male experiences an unpleasant sensation. Therefore you must be careful with the erotic games, paying attention to his reactions. When the desire seems to go too far, you must interrupt the caresses or change them. Knowing to stop at the right moment means being able to prolongue the pleasure. Thus, the male learns to control himself and wait, in the preliminaries, for the female to be aroused, too. An experienced female and a pacient male can thus prolongue the caresses for a long time. And the tenderness arising from these gestures is useful for both lovers. The attention paid by her to his genitals can have various purposes. In the beginning, it can simply be an invitation from the female eager to make love. It can be the prelude of a sexual intercourse; in this case, the female wishes to reach a maximum arousal of the male in order to achieve a higher degree of pleasure. But it can also be a perfect remedy against fatigue and preoccupations that often prevent males from achieving pleasure.

The virility requires tenderness

Many men can be hurt in their own virility because of a disillusion or a sentimental failure which makes more fragile. These episodes have a relevant importance having in view the symbolic value of the male genitals. It's not only about the penis. It's also the falus, i.e. the virility symbol. In ancient times, this last one was venerated, representing the transcedental and magical virility. And legends, even religions, are inspired by collective subconcious. Even nowadays, the penis can be considered as more than the virile part and preserves a supernatural mean that transcend the rational one. It's obvious the decisive role of the female in a male's life: her behavior towards the male's penis can hurt, destroy or save him. The clever women who really know how to love adore the body of their partner, even in its more intimate parts, exactly as much as men venerate a female body. It's not a question of accepting the principle of male supremacy, but in a situation of sexual equality, of recognizing the right value of the male genitals, of offering them tenderness and gratitude. This way, the female should not only play, but also deepen her knowledge caressing and adoring it. Even it may seem unbelievable, the male who is told he has the most beautiful penis in the world feels great and adores the one who appreciates the centre of his ego. By touching this part of the body, the female actively participates to the sexual exchange: she ends the passiveness and finally becomes a pleasure giver. And she can personally check her own capacity of being a lover.

The gestures that make a male happy

The caresses over a male have nuances that can be perceived only by himself. The female does not know them instinctively and doesn't perform them as he would do all by himself. Therefore, the male should explain the right spots, the correct moves, the pressure, the rhythm and duration. Those zones have to be gently stimulated. The caresses include all types of thrills: with the finger tips or with a pressure or the whole hand. The pressure can be continuous or discontinuous, over a spot or with small moves.

For her

Enough men do not know how to obtain pleasure for their partners from the caresses over intimate parts of the female body. They know little about female sensuality. Instead, they should get to know what offers pleasure to their companions, making an effort to perceive the shades of their sensitivity.

It's better not in a hurry

Caressing does not necessarily mean reaching intercourse or orgasm. If you start from the idea that it is not compulsory that an intercourse have an end, that you can both touch yourselves only for the pleasure of touching, you can broaden the range of sensations and desire. If the female reaches the orgasm, everything is OK. If she has a complete sexual contact, with joyful moments besides the intercourse itself, it's even better. But even in such cases, it's not necessary that the intercourse end right after the climax. The "free caress", i.e. the one without a particular aim, gives a new meaning to sensuality. When you don't want to reach the orgasm, you must avoid the point of no return, by limiting the stimulation. But if you surpass it, you must continue until the climax. In no way the male should unilaterally stop the lovemaking. And if he reaches climax earlier than expected, he should try to compensate his lover up to a balanced situation. Some men think they are capable of prolonguing the arousal. But if you start from the principle that a caress is not a race towards a precise target, you can manage to slow down your own passion. What happens when the female has the necessary desire but cannot achieve pleasure? He must offer her a lot of tenderness, caressing her all.

Women prefer it like this

The caresses over the most intimate places of the female must be gentle, following the natural lines with tenderness. No other touch is so delicate. Many males ignore the existence of the clitoris. And enough males do not know how to stimulate it. However, females request to be caressed more and better. But they should also decide to surpass the false prejudice and the useless shyness, and express their need of caresses. The most sensitive spots, pressure, moves, more correct rhythm, are found through practice, "monitoring" the reactions of the partner: the breathe, words and moves are all proof of pleasure.

That moment of extasy

This is the most intense experience of pleasure. The word "orgasm" comes from the Greek "orgasmos" and means full of passion. This experience is very close to the state of trance. It seizes the conscience, cancels all thoughts and notion of time and space. It's exaltation and spell. Women have only one orgasm, understood as acute pleasure. It's the one that concerns the genitals. The clitoridian pleasure is better located, the most acute and intense. It's an electrifying sensation. The vaginal pleasure is more diffuse and profound. It takes control over the mind and carries a major content.

Impetuous sensations until the last breath

During an intimate contact the respiratory activity changes according to the sensations felt. And it takes typical forms: nasal when the arousal is not at its peak yet, oral when it's more intense. The pleasure is "whispered" also from the breathing rhythm. Profound and ample inspiring alternates with the moments when the air is kept inside. It's released with a sudden expiration. The air passing through the throat can cause sighs, soft and other suggestive sounds. When the pleasure reaches its climax, it can be checked one or more ample expirations which signal the end of the tension and the return to tranquility. They are sighs of satisfaction. The vocal sounds can be taken as breathing sounds. It's all a language impossible to be described but intelligible to all people in love, as the ear goes directly to the heart.

And the moves? They vary. The caressed area can become imobile, as for an abandon, or stretched towards the hand as for offering itself and demanding more pleasure. Even the areas more remote from the caressed ones can enjoy this. The head, for example, can turn from one side to the other, the hand can move or knead the partner's back, the legs can vibrate, alternately bending and stretching, the body can bend and the words can accompany the hands indicating the parts of the body that offer the most intense pleasure. The erogenous zones, the gradual reach of pleasure and its intensity degree can be easily perceived even by a blind or deaf partner, because the skin has its own clear and precise language. The part which is pleasantly thrilled is charged with "electric" and "magnetic" sensitivenes. People in fact can perceive even blindfolded the quality of an object, its heat degree and shades just by touching it. The touch has an ample range of sensorial nuances, more than the other senses. Therefore the pleasure is read with the touch.

Having all these in view, caressing should have a new meaning for you and your partner, and therefore you should take care next time you find yourself alone to share your tendernes through caresses. Our bodies are hungry for them, and they should be therefore part of our sentimental and erotic "diet".

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